Need of free sky....

Hi Every one....

You know when you try something new, you feel very exited about it and would like to do that thing again and again, and that is the reason why this is my second post on same day.

I was thinking that, I am very liberal, open minded, practical, calm and can accept negative points easily. But with the stream of time I realized that, it wasn't like that. I found my self stubburne, emotional, aggressive and always arguing for proving my thoughts right.

Now you will think, how I found this things??? When I was in India, I had several strong beliefs and I used to believe that my arguments and views are true because whole society follows that so called norms and a person can be wrong but society can not be wrong. I believed what famous magazines, newspapers, writers or our so called leaders told just because their words are aggressive or understandable. They made me feel like, "Yes!!! this are the things what we need." But was that true??? Let's find out with some of my beliefs and related experiences.

My FIRST belief....

I strongly believed that India needs good politicians, good government employees and good police for development. Once India will find good politicians all the problems would be solved, as politicians are the people who runs our country. As once country will go in safe hands and all the problems would be solved. And I started following B.J.P (one of the political party in India) because my dad was follower, my whole family was follower and people whom I mostly know and have influence on me followed it. And the strongest thing that I am Hindu by religion and this party is created to protect rights of Hindus and it was tradition in Gujarat, if you are feeling proud to call your self Hindu than B.J.P is the right choice.

My SECOND belief....

My culture is the best culture in this world, and I am very proud of being Indian and more than that for being Hindu and Indian both to-gather. I belong to oldest culture on this earth and so my culture's traditions are right and what my elders believes and follows I should do same. I strongly believed that, "alcohol is the worst thing in this earth and whole world would be destroyed by it" just because my elders gave me examples of those people whose families were suffering poverty because of man's drinking habit.

And, My THIRD belief....

One shouldn't ever leave his/her own country. Person has to stay with their parents and joint family tradition is the right life style. Women can work but growing up children and giving them right direction is solely mother's responsibility. Men helping her wife in kitchen or in daily work is not a real man, in other words he is "Joru ka Gulam."

I was happily living with my all these beliefs and admiring my self as MODERN THINKER.

I remember may be it was 2002, when my dad came back from his 3rd or 4th trip of UK, he was telling every one that we are walking 100 years back from these developed countries and I was not able to digest that thought. I am the best and all the best things belongs to my country. "Look at the growth rate of our country, it's 7% this year and data says that it is highest growth rate ever seen." But exactly what he wanted to tell was not about growth rate. My mum was crazy about living in UK after her trip. She wanted all of us to settle over there, but no one of us was ready for that all had different reasons. It was difficult for me to find out that, what exactly attract her in UK. She is rich house wife here, has servants to work for her and purse full of credit and debit cards for shopping. What else one should need more than that??? Definitely she won't find any maid in UK and would be tired of working and will not have time for shopping any way. She know all these things, still she was more than happy to live there.

Now it's 2010. I came Melbourne in 2008. I had fight with my parents to come here. In Feb'2008 for the first time I realize the value of abroad due to my personal circumstances. I was dying to leave India. I realized what India is missing. And that was freedom of thinking, freedom of acting, freedom of decision making and freedom of not following society's norms. Because it was the time when I decided to take divorce. Suddenly Princes of family became burden. I was surrounded by sympathy and sorrow. Every single person, who know me was giving me sympathy. I felt my divorce is the talk of town. Still after 2 years when I talk to EXPERIENCED persons of society, I can hear words "Forget it dear what ever happened, it was god's wish and your karma." Why they give me that much sympathy??? Do I really need it??? I am educated, I am confident and I can find work for my self and can be happy. I have all reasons to be happy and why should't I??? But still society will never forget that once I was married, even if I forget. According to them I have to stay sad, because I am divorced.

Now it's turn of alcohol, here in Melbourne people drink alcohol regularly, whole family does not suffer from one person's any habit. Because wife earns for her self and her money belongs to her not to her in laws. Lost of husband means loss of emotions, not a economic loss. Women are practical enough for not fulfilling their husband's unethical demands. and why should they??? Now I understood that it is not alcohol, that destroys family. It is our society so called norms. First wife is dependent on husband and husband is the final authority of family, no one can stop him. If wife is working than her money belongs to husband and there is nothing bad in it. Husband has right to beat wife, as she is his responsibility and authority. And wife tolerates all this things because society will not accept divorced woman. She definitely need one man to protect her and her children from this society's GENTLEMEN. She finds better to tolerate one man than whole society. I d't understand is it alcohol responsible for family's condition or society???

How can my country be great, when it is against of happiness. How I can call my culture great, when it does not consider women as human....

Politicians are not responsible for corruption, people offering bribe are responsible. Sleeping and selfish society norms are responsible. Our orthodox thinking is responsible.... Our habit of accepting authority is responsible... Our rigidity is responsible... Our habit of protesting each and every thing is responsible... We can't celebtare valentine's day just because it encourages youth to fall in love... Can you stop heart to beat??? Than how would you stop love??? Why d't we understand need of freedom??? When we will leave our Hippocratic life style???

We need free sky... Where we can fly fearlessly....